When There Is No Where To Hide!















When There Is No Where To Hide!

When the panic swells up in your throat threatening to choke you and there is nowhere to hide. When the tears fall down your cheeks, their salty taste the only thing that reminds you that you are alive.

Just when you think you are back in control , as quick as the flip of a light switch. Your plunged back into the abyss.

Now, there is no where for me to hide . Except in these words

I am writing as I bury the panic which is an all too familiar friend.

I will not hide. I will stand and fight.

Cindy Lotian

Oct. 30, 2015






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Whose Life Is This Anyways?










Since March is MS awareness month, it got me thinking about how much time and energy we put into thinking, worrying, focusing on the “illness”.

Of course, I am all for spreading MS awareness to educate others who like myself before diagnosis had no clue what MS was.

But I ask you to stop and consider how often you are feeding the MS “monster”?

Are you so focused on what is wrong and how many things you can’t do that it is stopping you from enjoying the simplest things like spending time with family and friends?

Stop letting MS be the driver of your life. If your anything like me, you have been cruising far too long on “auto pilot”. Change can always be a scary proposition but without it, you may fall prey to complacency.

This year, I have taken huge leaps of faith. I have gotten married, moved not only to a different city but to a different country.

Go ahead and dye your ahir orange or paint your fingernails orange for the month of March. For there are no rules to how you want to spread awareness. The only rule is to not let MS stop you from being “you”.

MS may be a part of your life.

It does not have to be the whole of it.

Cindy Lee Lothian

March 2, 2015

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What kind of world do we live in when a blue disability sign has made those with disabilities feel shame, defeat and even a sense of failure. It is time to join hands and let our voices be heard that there is no shame here. No pity asked for or wanted.

Do not let what you think others see you as be what defines who you are or what you think you are capable of doing. For what really does the opinion of someone you think is staring at you really matter in the grand scheme of things? Their opinion of you whether real or perceived. does not change anything in your course of life. 

I, for one, am tired of letting others make me feel weak, flawed or less than. 

I have lost out on too many chances when I have let my own self doubt and insecurities stop mefrom doing things.

Instead of what you think you perceive as judgement or pity ….what if it is really admiration?

For if they were really looking at you from a place of kindness, just think of how this shift in perception could change your own sense of self worth?

Do not let others leave you shackled in a distorted sense of shame. 

Needing help is not a sign of weakness.

Rather , being able to accept it, is the true badge of courage. 

January 27, 2015 

Cindy Lee Lothian





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The Other Side of MS


The Other Side Of MS

When you are caught up in the midst of the eye of the “MS storm”, it may seem hard to keep the belief that there is a place of calmness waiting on the other side. But there is.

You will rise out of the shit storm we all know as life with MS, a more pliable, stronger version of who you once were.

No, “Chicken Little”, the sky is not falling, it is merely changing.

I have lived with MS now for almost twenty years. I have cried. I have been scared. I have felt hopeless. All of these emotions among a myriad of others you will feel at some point in your journey of living with MS.

It is strange that now that the dust has settled and I no longer hover in fear of what tomorrow may bring, I can offer someone caught up in the clutches of MS, proof that there is life after the diagnosis.

Sure, I still live every day with my battle scars but they no longer define who I am.

It is so easy to get caught up in the fear of the unknown. The worst thing that this diagnosis brings is uncertainty and “what if’s”. You cannot stop living your life worrying that you might not be able to see your child’s next birthday or be able to see them graduate from high school and one day get married.

If you live in this state of fear, you are living your life in a state of limbo. Suspended in a life of self-made purgatory. I

have now come out of the other end of the tunnel and I offer my hand in encouragement.

Take it and meet me here.

It is a place filled with peace.

Cindy Lee Lothian

October 20, 2014

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All My Troubles Seemed So Far Away!


“Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away. Now it looks as if they’re here to stay. Oh I believe, in yesterday. ~Beatles~

This morning as I lay in bed watching the sky lighten to a brighter shade of gray, I said a silent prayer of thanks. Grateful for being blessed with another day of experiencing everything life has to offer.

This might sound strange or even unbelievable to someone who has not experienced living life with MS. They would probably look at me like I was delusionalor had three heads.

In the famous lyrics of the Beatles classic song “Yesterday” all my troubles did seem far away. Life seemed at the time carefree, bursting with endless possibilities and hopes for the future.

But stop right there. You can not dwell on what was!

If I have learned one thing after living with MS for twenty years, is that you can not focus your attention on what you used to be like. The things you once might have been able to do but now you can’t.

You need to shift your mindset into being grateful for what you can now do and experience.

I might not be able to drive my car anymore feeling the rush of independence just going somewhere on my own. I can no longer curl up on a sofa on a rainy day with a treasured paperback novel as the words are now no longer visible to my damaged optic nerves. I might trip over unseen curbs or lament the fact that I cannot see clearly the vibrant colors of a fall landscape.

But I can see that today is a new day and full of beauty. I just have to look at things with a new appreciation.

So I am writing this as the new day dawns outside of my multi-paned window to remind you not to focus on yesterdays, but to embrace your todays.

There is goodness in your life. Do not let MS blind you from seeing what matters.

Cindy Lee Lothian

September 15, 2014

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There was a time, I admit, when I was the girl who still cared what people thought or were saying about me. Whether it was in the school playground as a child, the teenager embarrassingly changing into gym clothes in the girl’s locker room or the young woman who suddenly found herself diagnosed with MS.

A scary sounding word, it’s wrath unpredictable.

“Oh I am so sorry to hear that”,was the initial response I would get along with the pitying looks. Behind closed doors or whispered over the phone lines was a whole new territory. A new playing field for everyone to talk about what a terrible disease I had been given and all the while thanking their lucky stars , God, or the universe, that it wasn’t them.

For years, my family and I, kept this deep dark secret that someone in our close knit family had just been delivered, what I then thought to be, a cell on death row. I would pretend for years that I could see things that I really could not for. MS had repeatedly played havoc on my optic nerves, leaving enough scars to prevent me from driving my car again or reading a paper back novel. One of life’s simplest joys which was now an impossible luxury.

Today, I can look back from a place of acceptance and I am left wondering why I had wasted so much energy on pretending to be what everyone expected, “ok”. It only took falling off a miniature golf putting hole and breaking my shoulder, to landing on a wintry airplane tarmac face first amidst snow and ice, to tripping over an unseen curb and landing nose first onto the concrete, causing a mini scene outside a local airport terminal.

Why did I care so much?

Who exactly was I trying to impress?

Obviously, not myself.

For if I had stopped living from a place of fear and shame years earlier, , I would have been in a much more peaceful and less fearful place. There is no shame to be felt. No need to stand in judgment of others. By accepting your life for “what is” opens the door wide open for you to take control and start living your own life again. I have now come to accept the use of a walking stick if I feel the need and don’t really care who I “think” might be staring.

After all, the only person you need to please is the face you see in your own mirror..

Cindy Lee Lothian

August 16, 2014




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Fallout Be Damned!!



My mind knows it is happening. My heart starts to race with the sudden surge of panic. My voice is trapped in my throat the words frozen in my mouth. The only thing that doesn’t know it is my arms. Why don’t they reach out and protect me?

Disoriented, dazed, rattled I sit on the floor after yet another random fall this time tripping over my good intentions. That being my eight pound dumbbells that I recently purchased to get back to working out.

The sequence of events is always the same. The location might change, the body parts involved vary but the outcome is always the same. My mind knows I am falling and danger is imminent but the signal does not get to my arms in time to react.

This morning,I sat on the hardwood floor of my office, the treadmill on my left and the yoga mat on my right. I sat for five minutes before getting up taking stock. My arm still works, my leg is bruised but not broken and thankfully my head did not kiss the floor this time.

It is times like these where I can be at risk of losing my “keep a stiff upper lip” attitude is in jeopardy.

Living with MS and the constant lack of balance among the myriad of other daily challenges can only be understood by someone who has experienced living life with MS. Do not get discouraged for you will pick yourself up, brush yourself off and carry on like the brave soul you are.

Look at me, I made it up off the floor and am here writing to let all you other clutzes to let you know that “s*** happens” but forget about it and move on.

Cry if you want, scream if must but never let it beat you!

Cindy Lee Lothian

July 20, 2014

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